Social Customs

There are many different customs to follow which depend where one lives geographically in the world.

In Hawaii....one always removed their shoes or slippers before entering someone's home.  The local custom also includes giving people a kiss on the cheek as well. 

Many years ago Frank Fasi's campaign for Mayor made popular the "shaka" sign which some may not have known is what Barack Obama showed
during his Inauguration walk.

In America....a groom carries his bride over the threshold of the place they spend their wedding night.

In India....when a bride enters the home of her husband and his family there is a certain ritual they perform....putting salt, water and even flowers across the threshold.  Depending on the various beliefs....there are so many additional customs to follow. 

I think that is why I just love watching Hindi movies....their customs are so interesting and the purpose of the custom itself is so touching and incredible.

In Korea, when drinking with an elder or someone that is at a higher social level, one must turn to the side and drink.  When pouring for another person, it is a sign of respect to use one hand holding the bottle and the other hand is placed at the elbow of the hand pouring the drink.

Kowtowing....or bowing is done when leaving the presence of an elder and when entering the room of an elder, a bow is also given.

Oh....and I forgot.  When eating, the elder person or the person at a higher social level has to start first before anyone else can start.

Another social custom here in America that has somewhat been lost, is opening a door for a woman...whether it be a car door or the door to a store....this is a dying custom that should really be brought back.  We women deserve it!

I remember when I was growing up, our neighbor had a "get together" at their home following funeral services of someone that lived there.  They were a Chinese family.  Everyone that entered their home had to jump over fire before going in.  My mom even commented that if a woman had her period she was not allowed into the home.

Now, I venture to say that I may not know the significance of a lot of these customs, but I'm certain that showing respect to another person is a step in the right direction for the most part.